Do Feminine Women need Multiple Men?

This blog is a reply to a blog post from Renee

http://www.thefemininewoman.com/2010/07/open-relationships-do-feminine-women-need-multiple-men/comment-page-1/#comment-1668

The Main Questions asked in this blog are:

Do you think that you cannot be truly fulfilled as a woman by just one man?

Its possible I feel, however for me I have experienced at different times in my life open relationships where it was made clear we weren’t “exclusive” and I would see other men and also cheating (where I agreed to be monogamous and wasn’t, I felt was not in my integrity and at the same time I would of liked to “feel” like monogamy was for me, but it wasn’t so there was no need to lie or pretend I was it would only create unnecessary drama) At one point in time I was in an open relationship with a man and for the first year or so that we were really together I had no desire to be with other men, and when I wanted to go deeper, explore more things about relationships, sex and love, he didn’t want to, so the relationship with my best male friend changed into a deeper one for me to explore on those levels. My other man eventually started seeing other people and to this day our physical relationships may have changed but there is a great love still and great relationships and love still exist with a few of these men who are all important to me and who I truly love.

Do you feel like being in a relationship with one person for life obstructs growth?

Only if you are not growing together

Do you think that one woman cannot satisfy one man’s sexual needs?

One woman can definitely

Do you believe it is IMPOSSIBLE for just one man to fulfill all your needs as a spiritual, sexual and emotional being?

No its not impossible, quite possible. I’ve seen couples (rare) who have done it where it is obvious there is passion and love between them and its a beautiful sight to see, I love to engage and be in the energy of these people. I see way more miserable “couples” who celebrate being able to “stay together” for a massive amount of years who only enjoyed the first few of those years together if they ever truly enjoyed any of it at all and to me that is not an example of true love. If we don’t get joy in what /who we are doing then maybe we need to change perspective or stop doing it or just settle for not being joyous and truly committed in love and pat ourselves on the back that we can say to others we been “together” for a long time.

To me, I feel all my different relationships, including romantic or close relationships with men and the ones that were happening at the same time as well have helped me grow tremendously as a woman and I would not trade the experience, I have met many beautiful men who I love dearly who love me as well and love is a beautiful thing in itself.

Now to me personally I feel that if I got married that I would be with one person, not necessarily exclusive in the sense he or I would have to be “obligated” to each other, or each others possession, I’m always for freedom and conscious choices without consequence but I feel its quite possible to find that connection with one person and be able to be with and WANT to be with just that person and to me that’s who I would marry and I always felt there should be a certain feeling I would have before I could KNOW that I could make that type of commitment for myself and to another. Without that feeling I would be lying, not true to myself and not true to the man in my life who I would be “marrying”.

I feel all my other love relationships have helped me grow and some people may do all the growing they need to do with one person for their whole life, some do it with several others, and I just happen to experience great and FAST growth with different people, different relationships and all with LOVE and its been an amazing journey, I am Love, I give love, I love love.

Last year I met a man where I got that “feeling” and I feel all my past lovers and LOVES helped me get to a point where I feel whole in myself, where I know LOVE is who I am and I think getting married to somebody is truly knowing how to LOVE another and I have no doubt I can be with one man in marriage, however I would never knock the experience of loving more than one man and they were “real relationships” and I love to hear men talk about their experiences with other women because when they know how to love I know they can love me as well. The beautiful men I love who are in my life now will always have a place in my heart and my husband will know just how much they helped me be the very super feminine (balanced with masculine), loving woman I am that is able to commit to loving him for as long as we both consciously mutually choose to be committed to each other in “wholly” matrimony. I honestly feel the other relationships prepared me to have a “marriage” union with a masculine counterpart, based on my ideas and definition of what marriage is.

I know its possible to love more than one person, we don’t stop loving people we love even if the relationship parameters and physical states of being change.

So I know for myself open relationships have truly helped me RISE in love and all experiences negative and positive were great lessons in love and none of them devastated or broke me down, just built me up into a LOVE GODDESS

Truly monogamous people are rare in the sense they have ONE mate for life. Most people experience love on many different levels with many different people, they just choose to do it “one at a time”. To me there really is no difference when its all over in this lifetime whether you engaged with these people simultaneously or separately and we can all choose to engage however we like for which ever way works best for us.

I will always support other women, other men in being true to themselves and finding what works for them without knocking them for the experience they choose to have. All experiences in love and relationships can be beautiful with LOVE, freedom, conscious choices that don’t stem from fear of loss, consequences applied on top of them, restrictions and limitations. We can freely choose to be with just one person at a time, for a long period of time, for a whole life time and both people who choose that can be happy as long as they know for sure what they are choosing is true to them or we can choose to engage in Love and relationships with multiple partners and everybody freely chooses to be a part of that experience as well. Open relationships are simply HONEST ones where everybody is being true to themselves, expressing how they truly feel and working things out together not hiding things or being in a state of fear and paranoia over “losing love”.