Is Alicia Keys a Homewrecker?

Is Alicia Keys the reason why Swizz Beats Marriage didn’t work out? Is it two selfish people who don’t care about anybody else but themselves trying to deliberately crush other people. Was it a happy couple who was destroyed by a manipulative she devil out to get hers? Was it a trifling man who doesn’t care about the feelings of his wife or child/children and only wants to be up in some new yoni and likes to move from chick to the next after he has a baby with them? We don’t really know we do tend to like making every situation cut and dry, black and white when there is way more to situations like these than what we see on surface level…

A comment from my youtube channel
“I agree with what you said, BUT i feel like if he wanted someone else he should have been open about what he wanted to do (alicia keys..LOL), and NOT cheat, i feel like they both played Mashonda (sp ?) for a fool, which i know must have really hurt her. ”

My Response
I think in our culture and society honesty isn’t really pushed, we prefer to try to make people feel bad, emotionally manipulate, try to force them to stay, prefer them to lie to us than tell us the truth if we don’t like it, etc. To be honest isn’t that easy esp if you care about somebody and I would guess he doesn’t think she is just some random run of the mill chick who he just wanted to crush her feelings into the ground and go frolick around with Ms Keys like she doesn’t even matter in life and I would also guess it wasn’t that easy on anybody. These types of situations are never cut and dry, black and white and isn’t about people just wanting to shit on other people on purpose. Granted, I agree if you want to leave, then leave I am a proponent of honesty, however alot of times we can’t even be honest with ourselves about what we want, we don’t know who we are, we don’t know why we aren’t happy and we are constantly trying to figure it all out.

Sometimes you don’t realize what you had until its gone, maybe Mashonda was the best woman for him and he didn’t realize it and he may lose out in the long run

or

Sometimes you don’t know what you are missing until you run across it

I don’t get the feeling Alicia Keys nor Swizz beats just decided to stomp Mashonda’s feelings into the ground without regard, I also don’t get the feeling everything was so Kosher at home and Alicia just swooped in and disrupted “bliss”. I could be wrong and I could be bias because I love Alicia Keys, but I’m not really picking up intentional trife in this situation to where it Alicia being jealous Mashonda had him and wanted to take him away from her or something along those lines. If one is really concerned about the well being of Mashonda don’t pity her or play into a “woe is her”, she deserves somebody to love her and want to be there and instead of wanting to see bad things happen to Alicia and Swizz, want for good things to happen to Mashonda. I guarantee if Mashonda is hurt and bitter and holds onto it, and people play into and give that same energy to her when they think about it, that no matter how Alicia and Swizz end up even if something terrible happens it won’t make her feel any better. Only love, letting go, moving on, opening to somebody who is good for her will do that so focus on love and healing to her.

I do wish the best for everybody involved..Alicia, Swizz, Mashonda, the kids.